Eulogies & Obituaries

Key Details to Include

While not every detail is required, these elements are commonly shared to paint a picture of your loved one’s life. Select what feels right for your family:

Age at passing
Names of close family members
Educational background
Career or profession
Retirement information, if relevant
Military service, if applicable
Volunteer or community involvement

Funeral and Memorial Information

Many family and friends look to the obituary for details about services and gatherings. Including this information helps people know when and where to pay their respects and can reduce the number of calls and questions you receive during this time. Consider including:

Date and time of the funeral or memorial
Location of the service
Viewing or visitation times, if any
Requests for charitable donations in lieu of flowers

What Should I Include in a Eulogy?

When writing a eulogy, consider including personal anecdotes, cherished memories, and the deceased's accomplishments. Highlight their passions, values, and the impact they had on others. This personal touch will resonate with attendees and create a heartfelt tribute.

How Long Should a Eulogy Be?

Typically, a eulogy should last between 5 to 10 minutes. This timeframe allows you to share meaningful stories without overwhelming the audience. Aim for about 750 to 1,000 words, which is usually sufficient to convey your message while keeping the attention of those present.

What Tone Should I Use?

The tone of your eulogy should reflect the personality of the deceased. If they had a great sense of humor, feel free to incorporate light-hearted stories. However, if they were more serious, a respectful and somber tone may be more appropriate. Strive for a balance that honors their memory while providing comfort to the audience.

Tips for Delivering a Eulogy

Practice your eulogy several times before the service to build confidence. Consider writing it down and bringing notes to the podium. Speak slowly and clearly, and don’t hesitate to pause for a moment if you feel emotional. Remember, it’s okay to show your feelings; this is a time of remembrance and connection.